Friday, December 9, 2011


She told me later how uncomfortable she felt that day. A day when we had guests .

She went to sit with a girl she knows, who is very quiet and shy, to make her feel comfortable and to get to know her more. In the midst of conversation, a mom of another shy girl , wanted her to come and talk with her daughter and tried to interrupt her numerous times.

My girl hardly acknowledged that mom and was feeling increasingly annoyed by the minute.

She didn't want anyone to think she was being rude, but there was no way she was going to interrupt the conversation she was having to go off to someone else. "THAT would have been rude," she said. Plus she was enjoying herself.

Anyone who doesn't know my daughter, or who is fairly new to unschooling, might have thought ill of her. But she is a child with her own mind, and no adult or child is ever going to make her do something she doesn't want to do.

That, plain and simple, is the beauty of radical unschooling. Being a partner with your child and allowing them freedom to choose and make their own decisions, trusting they do know what is best for them. Because they DO!

So if you ever witness this kind of situation, what you see may be a confident child doing what she feels is best for her at that moment in time.

Every day I see the benefits of leading this kind of lifestyle and the confidence that radiates from my children.